Archive for the 'Ethics' Category

25
Aug

Twinkle of His Eye

In October our little community will have its first wedding.  A special couple will be getting married after preparing for over two years.  Summer and I will have the privilege of being apart of this celebration of two lives coming together as one.

Something that is obvious about any wedding is that it’s mostly about the bride and some about the groom.  She does most of the work and He does most of the _____ (you fill in the blank).  On the big day the attendee will smile when they see the groom, but they will stand in respect when they see the bride.  She is beautiful, pure, and glowing; just what a bride should be.  When Jesus walked the earth there was a betrothal period during which the bride and groom were separated until the wedding. It’s this imagery and symbolism of marriage that is applied to Christ and the body of believers known as the church. These are those who have trusted in Jesus Christ as their personal savior and have received eternal life. In the New Testament, Christ, the Bridegroom, has sacrificially and lovingly chosen the church to be His bride (Ephesians 5:25-27).

Recently in our gatherings we have discussed Colossians – Christ is enough.  We have been reminded that Jesus is the Head of the Church, He is everything.  But personally I have been asking the question, “What is the Brides responsibility?”  Just as there was a betrothal period in biblical times, so is the bride of Christ separate from her Bridegroom during the church age.  So our responsibility is to be faithful to Him (2 Corinthians 11:2; Ephesians 5:24).

Before I expound let me say I love the Church.  I think she is beautiful in spite of everything.  But no one should find her more beautiful than the Bridegroom (Jesus Christ).  Actually I think sometimes He is the only one that finds her stunning.  But over time I found we tried to make her more attractive.  I guess a little make-up can’t do too much harm, unless we try to make her more attractive for the wrong reasons. 

The point I want to make is that we can become so in grossed in making the church more attractive to people that we take away from make makes us glow – Jesus. When people hear the good news it should be about Jesus and not the church.  Jesus is our hope of salvation.  We exist as the church because He lives.  Simply put it’s more important we are attractive to Jesus.

27
May

A Desk by the Window

I actually feel very blessed to have my “tent-making” job by a window.  I complain but honestly God is in the details of my circumstances, BUT I really wish I had my way.  To have the luxury of supporting my family entirely from doing what I love – ministry.

Why does God insist on the long road – the job you hate, consent physical pain, delay of immediate joy?  Didn’t Jesus get the memo – accept Him and life gets better: more money, better friends, nicer clothes, and any job you want.

Peter had a lot to say on this issue.  He said, “Think of your sufferings as a weaning from that old sinful habit of always expecting to get your own way. Then you’ll be able to live out your days free to pursue what God wants instead of being tyrannized by what you want. (1 Peter 4.2)”

Ouch.  I think the part that says “…instead of being tyrannized by what you want,” hits the hardest.  Reminds me of the last LOST episode for the season where Ben asked Jacob, “What about me?” and Jacob responds “What about you!”  So often we assume because we are doing what Jesus expects or commands there is something in the works for us.  Our reward is Christ and no promise of friends, fame, or fortune. 

But this doesn’t mean God is absent.  When life gets really difficult, we can’t jump to the conclusion that God isn’t on the job (1 Peter 4.12).  You see if you find “life difficult because you’re doing what God said, take it in stride. Trust him. He knows what he’s doing, and he’ll keep on doing it (1 Peter 4.19).”

Here is the conclusion I have come to – true freedom comes from pursuing what God wants and He wants us to care for His people with all diligence.  Not because you have to, but because you know that makes God happy.  Not calculating what you can get out it (salary), but acting out of spiritual impulse (God will provide my needs).  Not telling others what to do, but tenderly showing them the way (1 Peter 5.2-3).

I’ve come to the assumption that it’s unjust to ask people to live for Christ daily outside your sanctuary, if you sleep on the pews.  Actually, I think true Christianity comes from being the church without buildings and actually just living with people.  Maybe this is unorthodox but maybe the deeper truth of Christ is in getting our hands dirty and clothes frayed daily with the people we are sharing the Kingdom of God with?

Nonetheless, I’m content with who I am, and don’t want to put on self-importance.  God’s strong hand is on me; he’ll promote me at the right time. So I live carefree before God; he is most careful with me (1 Peter 5.6-7).

Disclaimer: I don’t really believe Christian = more, better, nicer, all-inclusive
07
Apr

Human Filters

What’s your filter?  Everyone has a filter, it’s whatever worldview, orthodoxy, or understanding you use to strain, sort, and categorize what goes through your senses (hear, see, smell, touch, taste). These filters can be good and they can be harmful.  The definition of the verb filter is the act of slowly or partially obstructing the passage (you could insert message).  This isn’t all bad.  Our filters cause every message that we encounter to pass or slip through slowly, as through an obstruction. This allows us to decide if the information is worthy.

 Now you may be thinking, “This is not news!”  Except what if our filters are congested? 

 When we bought our house, we also bought a new refrigerator.  If worked wonderfully.  Except after two years, when friends came over, the water pressure slowly decreased in the door.  I would just tell them to push the button to reset the filter.  But they still complained.  Then two years ago my father was visiting and asked when the last time I change the filter?  I responded that I didn’t know we needed to change the filter.  After reading the owners manual we learned it should be changed every six months.  Our filter was two and half years old – gross.  I actually need to change our filter now.

 So how do we change our human filters?  That is much harder and there is no expiration date.  But it’s important to assess and sometimes reset our filters.  Here are some ways I continually assess and reset my filter to make sure I’m responding to my world candidly. 

  • Read books.  Find books about subjects your comfortable with and read a different point of view. A Christian should read a Atheist’s argument.
  • Listen to different people talk about their view of world issues and dialog.  The secret here is to listen, not convert them.  Listening is much more powerful.
  • Try new things.  I remember in middle school going to a Bat Mitzvah.  I’m not Jewish but the experience left a lasting impression of the origins of my own faith.
  • Visit other countries and get involved.  The world is much smaller due to the internet and you have no excuse for never leaving home.  I know a woman who was born, educated, and raised her children in Texas — until recently she had never left the state.  At age 50 she left Texas for the first time to visit her daughter in LA.
  • Open your life to people not like you.  I think about Jesus often when it comes to this action.  He was completely God and Man – no one was like him – but he opened himself to everyone who would have him.  It’s sort of living life on purpose. 

The real message here is be aware of your filters.  We need to reset these filters to allow us to interact with the world more truthfully.  The best way to do this is to leave your box, bubble, or whatever is keeping your from growing.

09
Feb

God’s Example

Recently, I was reminded how hard it can be to be first at something.  If the actions bring goodwill and success than the measures are worthwhile, but if you find failure and shame in the actions you carry regret.  You really don’t know until you take the first step.

 As you read the Leviticus 24 account of Israel you have a sense of rule and command, but also a sense of a God way ahead of culture.  A loving God who is calling for His people to be better then themselves and their surroundings finds an object lesson among His people.  Right in the middle of perpetual decrees about feasts, light, and bread you find God’s object lesson.  Someone always has to go first and for this son of an Israelite woman and Egyptian man you find God’s example.

 We don’t know his name but we know he blasphemed The Name.  His Name carried much reverence and pride in the people of Israel.  We know today that His Name was so reverence that they used a sub-name to protect themselves from abusing The Name.  So this day when this son of an Israelite woman and Egyptian man with no name broke out in fighting between him and an Israelite it was serious.  See the son of the Israelite woman blasphemed the Name of God and cursed.  They brought him to Moses.  We don’t know the son’s name but we know his mother’s name was Shelomith. 

 So what does a man like Moses do with a son of an Israelite woman and an Egyptian father?  This son has the blood of the oppressed and the oppressor running through his veins.  He is both native and foreigner so do the rules still apply.  This son will be our first so how do we treat him?  Do we treat him different?  This will affect Israel and how they treat others forever. So the scripture says Moses put the son in custody waiting for God’s will to be revealed to them.

 God says take the son outside the camp and everyone who heard him blasphemes must put their hands on his head, and then the entire congregations stone him.  God says tell everyone there must be accountability for anyone who blasphemes the Name of God.  It makes no difference whether he is a foreigner or a native, if he blasphemes the Name, he will be put to death.

 What follows is the instructions how to treat those who kill, mistreat, or hurts others.  It’s here the famous words ring, “life for a life…eye for eye, tooth for tooth.”  You know “do unto others as they have done unto you”…or at least that is how we remember it. 

 This act of blasphemes is strong words and disrespect of God.  The act of blaspheming goes much deeper than words and deeds to the root of man’s heart and lack of regard for God.  We would hear again in Numbers 15.30 that blasphemes leads to being cut off from a person’s community.  Mark 3.29 that blasphemes against the Holy Spirit can not be forgiven.  And last Luke 12.10 that everyone who speaks words against Jesus as Man (his acts on earth) will be forgiven, but anyone who blasphemes against the Holy Spirit will not be forgiven.

 In spite of the gravity of the sin God didn’t just have him stoned; he had the community get involved.  It was that heavy and serious to God.  He called to everyone to participate, to remember and respect.  I guess the moral of the story is being careful of your regard of God. Last, if you’re going to be the first at something, and be the class example, try to avoid the unforgivable.

12
Nov

Jesus doing what He does

A few weeks ago our group (Graceland People) discussed what happens when Jesus comes into your life?  This discussions origin came from an unbeliever friend of mine (His not atheist but agnostic).  He didn’t understand why people say “Jesus Saved Me” when they were actually the people who decided to change.  They were the one responsible everyday to make the decision to be better.  I agreed with him.  When you give your life over to Christ there is a measure of responsibility on our part to choose change daily.  Paul said he dies to himself daily (1 Cor. 15.31). But Jesus does have a part in the change; God through the Holy Spirit does make a difference.

I think many people view “religion” or Christianity as something they do.  Our biggest opposition in America comes from “Christian” atheists who reject the existence of God. I would speculate that many of the people looking for God are convert sinners who already believe in the God of the Bible.  At the end of their ropes they turn to the poplar choice.  This story was played out in Luke 3 when John the Baptizer was poplar with the locals.

We have so many terms for people searching for God but these people were those that felt satisfied with their relationship with God.  They looked good outward, children of Abraham, possibly the “good” Jewish boys and girls.  John pointed out God can make children from rocks, what He desires is green, blossoming lives.  Life change not wet skin.

Of course their response was “what do we DO?” Religion has a way about it, causing you and me to look for actions we can act on.  John wouldn’t loose an opportunity to teach virtue. He said “have two coats, give one away,” “no more extortion,” “no shakedowns, no blackmail.” All this talk of virtue caused the crowds to ask if John was the Messiah.  I think people make the same mistake in reaction to the churches talk of virtue, confusing the Message of Jesus with acts of Christianity.

John intervened by pointing he was not the main character, not worthy to tie the Messiah’s sandal strips.  He then outlined what Jesus does in the believer.  Jesus ignites the kingdom life, a fire, the Holy Spirit within you, changing you from the inside out.  He cleans house – makes a clean sweep of your life.  He places everything true in its proper place before God; everything false he puts out with the trash to be burned (Luke 3.16-17 MSG).

What people like my friend see is the Message of Jesus.  Because when people actually get hold of true salvation it changes everything.  The words of Jesus give strength to the people, words that put heart in them (Luke 3.18 MSG).  Yes, Christians make decisions everyday to change, but it’s Jesus who gives the strength and heart to make those changes.

19
Aug

What is Marriage?

Paul said it was better to be single (1 Cor 7.7-8), Jesus said if you’re capable of growing into the largeness of marriage, do it. 

I live in Texas.  There is an act called “Common-Law Marriage” that allows two consisting adults to call themselves married if they show evidence that they publicly recognize each other as wife/husband.  Other people can also testify to the same effect. Another way is with legal documents (i.e. leases signed as husband and wife, tax returns filed jointly as a married couple, and insurance policies listing one person as the other person’s spouse).

What defines marriage? Does a certificate make you married? Can two people who live together, committed to each other for life, be considered married?  Is marriage a private issue between two people or calls on the support of the whole community?

The disciples in reaction to Jesus’ view of marriage and divorce were shocked and responded by saying, “If those are the terms of marriage, we’re stuck.  Why get married? (Matt 19.10)” Those are pretty strong words for followers of Christ.  But you have to consider their worldview of marriage.  Moses permitted divorce and Jews practiced divorce.  God viewed marriage for a lifetime, divorced provided a way out. 

Jesus’ view of marriage was different and He called people to return to its original purpose.  Husband and wife become one flesh in marriage – no longer two bodies but one.  Because God created this organic union of the two sexes, no one should desecrate His art by cutting them apart.  The only exception was where the spouse committed adultery.  It was this view of marriage that caused the disciples’ response.

Jesus said in Matthew 19.11-12, “Not everyone is mature enough to live a married life. It requires a certain aptitude and grace. Marriage isn’t for everyone. Some, from birth seemingly, never give marriage a thought. Others never get asked-or accepted. And some decide not to get married for kingdom reasons. But if you’re capable of growing into the largeness of marriage, do it.”

What classifies marriage?  How should we identify marriage? Every culture is different – marriage is as simple as a piece of paper and a state seal in some places, while others involve a week long celebration calling on the community’s participation. 

This week Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi got married in Beverly Hills.  Most twenty something live with their partner before taking marriage vows.  Professing Christians have a higher rate of divorce then unchristians.  Somewhere we lost the meaning of marriage. 

I believe Jesus had a deeper view of love, sex, marriage, even family than we do.  Can we grow into the largeness of marriage?  I mean cultivate a culture where marriage is more than paper and people.  The early Christians viewed marriage as “marry then love”, not “love then marry.”  Marriage was a choice for life before feelings had anything do with it.  One didn’t test drive the relationship or chose a partner based of emotions. Love can fade, Lust deceives, and Life changes.

Marriage is a commitment to stay when you don’t feel loving, give more then you receive, and disregard the option of divorce when life changes.  If you need a piece of paper (and you do in most places) to demonstrate your vow then so be it.  The really question is: can you capable of growing into the largeness of marriage?

02
Jul

What a day!

How would you respond if everything you possess was taken away at once?  Use your imagination on how this happens.  People steal your belongs, flood takes your home, your friends are killed by Mother Nature, your cars are stolen and your insurance canceled your policy, and your children are killed by the structural collapse of your home.  Moreover, your no payments, no interest loan comes due and your identity has been stolen, your bank accounts bleed and your credit is shot. Oh, and your phone’s battery last long enough for you to get the message from your boss that your fired.

What a day!  

Until today you have shared a wonderful life with your wife and children.  You ruled the world and now you swipe the streets you once owned.  How do you respond?  If you’re devoted to God, how would you respond? The question, “WHY” comes naturally?  Do you accept you came into the world without and will return the same? God gives, God takes – bless His name!

Everything you hold dear, valuable, and sacred has been taken and all you have left is your loving wife and health – until the first sore. Your whole body covered with terrible ulcers and scabs that itch and oozed.  Self mutilation is the only escape from the agony and burning. And your wives not so loving anymore, nor as spiritually devout – she demands you curse God.

Your response to everything, “We take the good days from God – why not also the bad days?”  Every act of man, nature, and science has cheated you of life and not once do you sin. Not once do you say a word negative against God.  Not once!

What a day!

Personally, it’s hard to think of loosing my daughter, home, possessions, and source of income.  Scares me to think my wife could deny me and God when our pain is peaked.  I don’t know if I could react as Job (Job 1-2).  I hope my life has shown truth and hope in God in times of abandonment – I hope I can do it again.

Take a moment and think about everything you “have” and think about it all being taken away – stop and just think about it for 3 minutes.  How did you respond? How will you respond? Now ask yourself why?

13
Jun

Amos on Justice

My mind is thinking on “justice” a lot today. In part because a close friend of mine is interviewing for a leadership position with Samaritan’s Purse this afternoon. Scott has influenced my view of God’s ongoing presence in the world. He is passionate about relieving suffering and fighting injustice, joining the God of the oppressed. He has encouraged my view that Graceland should be a compelling force for good in the world, and it will be at its best when it serves, sacrifices, and loves, caring about the things God cares about.

The other reason “justice” has been on my mind is because of the photo connected to a previous post – “Sunday Rest.” If you look close you will see the Bible opened to Amos. If you’ve never read the book of Amos then buy some Charmin tissue, fill your pants for padding, because you’re going to get spanked. I just recently read that whole book and thought “I have missed the point of following God for thirty years!” Even more, I have gone about pastoral leadership wrong. Read the book of Amos and for dramatic effect use The Message version of the Bible. It leaves little room for interpretation of the writer’s intent. For example, take Amos 5:21-24 (Message):

“I can’t stand your religious meetings.
I’m fed up with your conferences and conventions.
I want nothing to do with your religion projects,
your pretentious slogans and goals.
I’m sick of your fund-raising schemes,
your public relations and image making.
I’ve had all I can take of your noisy ego-music.
When was the last time you sang to me?
Do you know what I want?
I want justice-oceans of it.
I want fairness-rivers of it.
That’s what I want. That’s all I want.

Your “bum” sore? God is very serious about justice and impolite in his passion for the poor! Read Amos and you find yourself asking what are we supposed to do with God’s anger. Because the direct content of Amos does not fit my image of a loving God. And though I’m puzzled, I’m not fool enough to disregard the warning. The Almighty is furious and boiling about how the weak are victimized. While we may not know exactly how to respond, try reading these and other biblical judgments and coming away unconvinced about the need to respond, the need to do something!

Question for you. How do you respond to Amos? Because running to conferences, starting church projects, and raising money for image is not going to cut it with God! What do we do with Amos? I would love to hear some comments.

31
May

Everyone’s Sin

A few days a week I stay home with my daughter. I often find time while she naps to get serious things done, but sometimes I just rest and watch a movie. Yesterday I watched an interesting independent film called “For the Bible Tells Me So” which is about homosexuality in America and the view of Christians. It made me think about sin and how we define it. Oddly enough some has recently done a study on this excite issue.

Let’s begin by stating the most Americans believe in sin.

Specifically, 87% of Americans believe there are certain actions that are “almost always considered wrong, particularly from a religious or moral perspective.” This is how sin was defined in a recent study by Ellison Research (a Christian research firm) of Phoenix Arizona, which sampled over a thousand American adults.

As we might expect, among those who regularly attend religious services, 94% believe in sin, yet among those who do not attend services, 80% still believe in sin. The difference is only slightly more evident depending on political persuasion. 94% of conservatives believe in sin, and 77% of liberals also believe in sin. Interesting the broad majority of liberals believe in the idea that some things are just morally wrong.

So, most of us believe in sin. But we cannot agree on specific behaviors and activities that can be defined as sinful. The following numbers tell the story.

The behaviors a majority of all Americans describe as sinful are:

  • Adultery 81%
  • Racism 74%
  • Using “hard” drugs such as cocaine, heroine, meth, LSD, etc. 65%
  • Not saying anything if a cashier gives you too much change back 63%
  • Having an abortion 56%
  • Homosexual activity or sex 52%
  • Not reporting some income on your tax returns 52%

A number of other behaviors are considered sinful by a significant portion of all Americans, although not a majority. These are:

  • Reading or watching pornography 50%
  • Gossip 47%
  • Swearing 46%
  • Sex before marriage 45%
  • Homosexual thoughts 44%
  • Sexual thoughts about someone you are not married to 43%
  • Doing things as a consumer that harm the environment 41%
  • Smoking marijuana 41%
  • Getting drunk 41%
  • Not taking proper care of your body 35%

Then there are behaviors that less than one-third of all Americans see as sinful:

  • Gambling 30%
  • Telling a “little white lie” to avoid hurting someone’s feelings 29%
  • Using tobacco 23%
  • Not attending church or religious worship services on a regular basis 18%
  • Playing the lottery 18%
  • Watching an R-rated movie 18%
  • Being significantly overweight 17%
  • Not giving 10% of your income to a church or charity 16%
  • Drinking any alcohol 14%
  • Working on Sunday/the Sabbath 14%
  • Spanking your child when he/she misbehaves 7%
  • Making a lot of money 4%
  • Dancing 4%

Of course if we take into consideration various religious, ethnic and political groups, or by gender, we would see some wide disparities. I would encourage you to look at the research yourself. I would like to spend my time asking, “How do we know what is and is not sin?”

Probably, the majority people draw on whatever moral or religious experience they have had in life – which defined sin for them. Those not “religious” usually draw on some moral or ethical code at which they have arrived through reason. Even those who claim not to believe in right and wrong have some kind of behavioral standard.

I remember as a child hearing preachers proudly point to their Bible and declare “This is our moral compass!” And I agree it should be – but this view has caused problems. First, we can’t agree entirely on what the Bible defines as sin. Plus, challenge a Christian about sin and we get downright nasty about it, resorting to badmouthing, shunning, beating each other because we’re questioned over what is sin. Second, the New Testament seems a bit vague on defining sin the way we would like. There is no single biblical passage that systematically lists all the behaviors that “annoy” God and all the behaviors that “keep him happy.” Just look at the list above — Smoking? Gambling? Racism? Dancing? Marijuana? Environment abuse? Making lots of money? None of this is specifically defined as sin in the New Testament or anywhere in the Bible.

Maybe we need to look at sin from a different perspective? It’s clear that God wants a relationship with us. Jesus provided a way by taking our sin – our bad behavior, past, present and future. In Romans 3:23-24, Paul does not bother with trivial arguments over what sin is and is not. He gives sin the broadest possible definition — anything short of God’s glory: “. . . all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are freely justified by his grace through the redemption that came by Jesus Christ.” For those who accept this offer, sin is no longer an issue. Now, in light of our relationship with God, and that fact that he is living in us, how do we behave? The way he leads us to. He will produce right, moral behavior in us (look at my previous post about the Which Comes First).

As Jesus leads us and transforms our consciences we’re not so concerned about lists, definitions, arguments and measurements of what is or is not sinful. But we should be concerned how our actions impact other people, about loving God, loving others and His creation in general. We should be concerned with Romans 14:23, “…everything that does not come from faith is sin.”

Why do we feel the need to argue what is “sin” or what is not? I assume so we can justify our ridiculous behavior? So we can continue to live self-destructive lifestyles? Why do we categorize other people’s actions as “sin”? So that we can criticize other people spiritually? So we feel better about our own standing with God by comparison? So that we can make sure that all sinners “get what’s coming to them” in this life? So that we can control the behavior of everyone around us to make a more comfortable (controlled) environment for ourselves?

How about grace? Doesn’t grace find beauty in everything? My entire life I’ve obsessed over sin – how do I stop, where is the beauty, has it been taken care of?  I think my problem (our problem) comes from wanting to fit into religion (whatever your religion) and less about making sure that God’s grace is our firm foundation.  Simply, living in Christ.  Learning how to live life in Christ.  ME (sinner) forgiven.

01
Apr

Lying Made Easy

Like many people we have an alarm clock in our bedroom. And like most time conscious people we set that clock ahead 10-20mins so we never over sleep or arrive late (although we normally arrive late). We are not lying to anyone but ourselves – mind trick?

Recently, Gmail (Google’s email service) has introduced what they call Gmail Custom Time. With this new feature you can pre-date your messages to the time you wanted your email sent and make emails look like they’ve been read all along. Making the recipient of the email fooled into believing they made the mistake.  Great idea, but ethical?

Who hasn’t wished they could go back in time and sent that crucial email that could have changed everything? To have the ability to avoid missing deadlines, missing birthdays and missed opportunities. They make it look like you remembered. Gmail has made is easy to lie using the one sacred system – Time

Like God – Time never lies. Your watch may tick long or short, the clock could be frozen, but you can never turn back or forward the hands of time – until now. I’m sure many people are excited about this Gmail feature but trust in regards to time has been compromised. Next time I get an email late and find it in the inbox later I will doubt.

The funniest part is they have done research and have concluded that allowing too many pre-dated emails would cause people to lose faith in the accuracy of time, thus rendering the feature useless. They even have a mathematical theorem for it. By the way, they say more than ten per year is too much.

I guess the next question – Will I use It?